He committed a serious crime and he doesn’t go to jail because he won’t fare well??!!

He committed a serious crime and he doesn’t go to jail because he won’t fare well??!!

This article (click on the title and it will lead you to the article) made me pause. It states that this man who molested his own children isn’t receiving jail time because “he won’t fair well.” What about his children and their trauma due to this experience?! This is outrageous. He should be put to jail no matter what would happen to him. His money got him out of jail time. Unfair. Unfair to the children and to the mother of his children. Read. Comment. And learn more about sexual assault here: http://www.nsvrc.org


7 times a woman kicked ass in Cable TV

Found this on UPWORTHY (a totally cool website) and it struck a cord with me. I hope this trend continues with Women standing up for each other in the news. Media is telling a much different story most of the time on how as women we should behaving and what we should be doing with our lives.

Check it out here:

7 times women kicked ass in Cable TV




Interesting Reads for the week

Over the next week and a half I have a lot going on so I want to leave a few interesting reads for you to look at!

Creative Art Therapy and Violence: 


What will it take to stop Violence against women and girls? :


Why did we stop dancing?: 


And just for fun! Reasons why I love dancers:



Enjoy!!! 🙂

It’s Here! Pass the Purse and Join our Week Without Violence

The YWCA’s around the USA help survivors escape violence, empower them to continue their lives, and basically helping find justice where they can. They are an amazing organization. Here is their blog about the purple purse campaine. It is an easy way for you to donate $5 buy just entering a code and your zip code. That is all. No money from you at all. Please read the blog here:

It’s Here! Pass the Purse and Join our Week Without Violence.


Once you are done reading about the movement, you can help a local YWCA that is close to my heart by doing the following:

1. Go to http://www.purplepurse.com

2. Enter the following: code-01170 and enter your zip code.

3. Pat yourself on the back for doing something awesome!


Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

read more about DV here: ncadv.org


“A strong woman stands up for herself. A stronger woman stands up for everyone else. “

If you don’t like something….change it. What a challenge that can be….

I was looking around at other blogs and came across a link to different Maya Angelou quotes. She has always been someone that has inspired me with her words. This quote resinated the most for me right now.

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” -Maya Angelou

I was watching the news on the Government shutdown when I read this quote. Now obviously I can’t change that, NOR do I feel the need to change my attitude about it. So it got me thinking about my work with Domestic Violence. What am I really doing as an advocate to change what people think about DV and what survivors of DV really need?

I like to think of myself as someone who takes any opportunity to speak about Domestic Violence and Dance/Movement Therapy whenever and wherever I have the space to do so. And trust me, you can ask my friends I will speak to you about these two topics until your ears bleed. But, I wonder if that is enough? I am planning now two events for One Billion Rising (find out more here http://www.onebillionrising.org or my blog post titled One Billion Rising February 14, 2014), and I am encouraging others to do the same….But I am still questioning how much change will occur due to my actions? I refuse to accept that the violence against women and girls should continue.

In what ways are you trying the change something that you don’t like?

One Billion Rising for Justice February 14, 2014

This past February 14, 2013 I luckily participated in a worldwide event called One Billion Rising. It was about rising and dancing and striking to end violence against women and girls. There were flash mobs all over the world. Here are some amazing facts from 2013.onebillionrising.org webpage about specific victories from that amazing day!


    1. Brought together people across movements and causes – mobilizing communities such as migrants, women in prison, domestic workers, urban poor, LGBTQI, farm workers, the disabled, and many more.
    2. Created the opportunity for councils of indigenous women to participate in global problem solving.
    3. Created global solidarity and strength cutting across borders, races, class, religions, sexual orientation, ages, genders. Reignited solidarity between women’s organizations in various countries. Rekindled the ethos of sisterhood amongst women on a global scale.
    4. Brought to the surface the intersection of issues both causing and affecting violence against women: patriarchy, poverty, corporate greed, environmental plunder, imperialist policies, religion, militarization, interventions of outside countries, immigration, labor export policies, nationalization of industries, political repression.
    5. Engaged masses on a deeper, more embodied level through dancing, poetry, singing, and art.
    6. Produced massive media exposure, discourse, and advocacy on violence against women issues. It also created or was the catalyst for the development of millions of women citizen social media journalists telling their own narratives by picking up cameras.
    7. Created solidarity and safe and free space, through our creativity and numbers, for violated women to tell their stories, many for the first time, and heal their trauma by dancing in public, communal open spaces.
    8. Inspired millions of men to stand and rise as our allies, deconstructing patriarchy alongside us.
    9. Galvanized and empowered legislators to generate legislation in support of ending violence against women and girls globally. Created an opportunity for globally linked women’s councils to lobby at all levels of government and UN.
    10. Increased funding and support for programs and education to end violence and women and girls.
    11. Made violence against women impossible to ignore and never to be marginalized again. Reminded the world that women united will never be defeated.
    12. Generated the best collection of worldwide dance videos ever! (See video here : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7YS8NIBc-z0)

All of these victories are awesome and so inspiring!

February 14, 2014 needs to be bigger and even better! As stated by the OBR committee “ONE BILLION RISING FOR JUSTICE is a global call to women survivors of violence and those who love them to gather safely in community outside places where they are entitled to justice – courthouses, police stations, government offices, school administration buildings, work places, sites of environmental injustice, military courts, embassies, places of worship, homes, or simply public gathering places where women deserve to feel safe but too often do not.  It is a call to survivors to break the silence and release their stories – politically, spiritually, outrageously – through art, dance, marches, ritual, song, spoken word, testimonies and whatever way feels right.”

So I challenge you to do an event! I know I plan on participating in as many as I can that day!


Dance/Movement Therapy & Trauma

My life’s passion and work is using Dance/Movement Therapy with children of Domestic Violence….which is trauma.  I am passionate about DMT and about DV. You can follow me on twitter at @danceoftherapy for my news on both. For right now here is the American Dance Therapy Associations (adta.org) information on Trauma and DMT. Enjoy. More to follow.


“Dance First. Think later. It’s the natural order.” – Samuel Beckett

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? Here are some facts for you to think about:

  • Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
  • Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family.
  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
  • Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually.
  • Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup.
  • Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.
  • Ninety-two percent of women surveyed listed reducing domestic violence and sexual assault as their top concern.
  • Domestic violence victims lose nearly 8 million days of paid work per year in the US alone—the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs.
  • Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55 percent and 95 percent of women who had been physically abused by their partners had never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters, or the police for help.
  • The costs of intimate partner violence in the US alone exceed $5.8 billion per year: $4.1 billion are for direct medical and health care services, while productivity losses account for nearly $1.8 billion.

For more information see http://www.ncadv.org.

The fight over October

Found this article today. It discusses how breast cancer receives more press and support than Domestic Violence. What do you think?

Article Link: http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/10/how-breast-cancer-won-the-battle-for-october.html

I think that DV gets the short end of the stick because it is a society problem that has been pushed behind closed doors for so long. Most people don’t know how to respond or what to do if they witness DV or know someone in an abusive relationship.

Educate yourself: http://www.ncadv.org

What everyone is talking about….tragedy.

Yesterday I was being a therapist while the unspeakable happened……again. It is during these previous months of all this violence that I rethink the world that a future child of mine will live in. What is being done about the violence that the youngest generation knows all too well? I can’t help but think that maybe there needs to be more creative outlets to the anger, depression, isolation, frustration that the perpetrators must feel. Maybe I am biased because I am a Dance/Movement Therapist that believes in the healing of the arts…but no really think about it?

I recently had the pleasure to visit Cuba last spring. It was amazing in many ways and I feel very lucky that I got to go on this amazing trip. But, one thing I noticed that was different from many other places that i have visited (mainly Europe) was the feeling of safety. Yes Cuba has it’s fair share of problems, but possibly they do have something right about the arts. All the arts are free. There was art, music, and dancing wherever we went. On the streets, in galleries, in restaurants. This to me and my fellow DMT’s seemed to be the way they relieved stress and let loose of the days problems. Something I think that America doesn’t encourage or do very well. One Cuban even stated “we drink rum and dance!” (Now that is my kind of self care!)

With that said, I believe in humanity and the goodness that most people have in their hearts. I hope that Boston heals and we all learn whatever we are supposed to learn from this violence. But, my one hope is that instead of this world becoming more unsafe, I hope it becomes safer, even if just for my future children’s sake.

Prayers and thoughts to Boston. Stay strong and safe.